Overcoming Our Vanity

11 05 2012

I am always hearing, “Oh yeah it’s no big deal, I can deal with it.” How do we find peace in situations that we continue to find ourselves in daily struggles that we can’t overcome. We repeatedly make the same mistakes or sins in the eyes of God and can’t seem to get over the hump. Problem is our vanity or pride in ourselves thinking we can do everything by ourselves without the help of God is the route we often choose. Believe it or not the Devil is out to get you when your down on yourself!! This is when we are most vulnerable to make dumb decisions in which we sincerely regret. Then we have despair and depression to deal with. This is a terrible sin in which we do not have the Hope in the Lord to help us get through these tough times. In the past two weeks I have heard about two suicides. The young adult suicidal rates are through the roof in this country and it mainly due to the pressure put on themselves by society and their peers. Our peace and relationship with the Lord can only be the help of many young adults in these situations. We need to focus on what is important in life and not fall in the pits of societies false lies, that our young adults often find themselves in. Whether it is the lies of pornography, cohabitation, pre-martial sex, immodesty, and the list goes on. So men challenge yourself and get off the mainstream “do whatever feels good” bus and be a man. For women today I hope are looking for someone worthy of their love and should be setting their standards high.

“For he is our peace, he who made both one and broke down the dividing wall of enmity, through his flesh, abolishing the law with its commandments and legal claims, that he might create in himself one new person in place of the two, thus establishing peace, and might reconcile both with God, in one body, through the cross, putting that enmity to death by it. He came and preached peace to you who were far off and peace to those who were near, for through him we both have access in one Spirit to the Father.”   -Eph 2:14-18



Sexual Healing

16 06 2011

With the dominant theme in society being that sex has no consequences, I couldn’t help in wanting to post this video below about the effects of having that mindset.  To add to it, I think that we as men need to step up to the plate and start being responsible for our actions. Too many men these days are blaming everyone but themselves for their actions. When couples enter a relationship often times they lack the mature intention of giving oneself to the other person. This is why so many relationships fail. This can’t be the mindset of relationships with the mindset of “seeing how much I can get out of her.” Sex is a intimate expression of total self-giving. It  is an act given selflessly to your spouse. As is mentions in the video, many are hurt as a result of their actions but God is always ready to pick up those are in need of help.

From the description of this awesome video:

A poem I originally wrote for open mic at Pacific University. The poem highlights our culture’s blind obedience to sexual norms, when it only seems to reap destruction. Pleasure is more at our fingertips in America than ever before, and yet depression steadily rises every year. It only shows that sex as recreation, or just for fun, is unable to satisfy us the way we were meant to be satisfied. Sex is good, in it’s proper context. This poem mainly focuses though on anyone who has been deeply affected, hurt, and damaged by sexual sin. Forgiveness and mercy are given freely by Jesus. He cleans, restores, and heals us beyond measure and asks nothing in return. He saw all our sin and filth before he went to the cross and it was still his joy to go get us.

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”-Matthew 11:28

The Downfall of Mediocrity

25 03 2011

A couple of years ago I got involved in a lay community called the Home of the Mother. My cousin is the one I actually am thankful for because she introduced me to these great people of faith. A particular subject always stuck with me one day in a talk given by Father Colum of the Home, in that he said, “We should never settle for mediocrity.” Mediocrity is like a cancer that spreads with the loss of the fire for Jesus Christ. I saw myself at that time as being mediocre. Someone who just goes to church on Sundays and say their prayers. This is of course good to do these things, but are you just doing them because your parents are nagging you to do them then you are doing them for the wrong reasons.

It comes to a point in time where we need to ask for humility and say, “You know am I putting my best foot forward for God.” Or am I settling for second place. Humility is the acceptance of the truth. Humility is a virtue that has definitely helped myself realize this.  I challenged myself to get out of this state of “mediocrity” and work towards a greater life of holiness. I am extremely competitive so there should be no reason for me to settle for small gains in my faith than go for the gold. The vice that brings us down to mediocrity is in large part due to laziness or sloth. Sloth is hard for many to overcome sometimes. I struggle with it, we all have our moments. But with the end goal in mind we have to know that it is not acceptable and that we can do better!

Being a Man Who Loves

5 11 2010

Just a little announcement for all those readers in Reno, Father Larry Richards will be in town this weekend for the Marian Conference over at Immaculate Conception Church in Sparks and there is still time to register. Go to adoregod.org and check it out! You don’t want to miss it!

In this chapter Father talks about the importance of being a loving man. The golden rule of course comes into play here and as well as we must love our enemies as much as ourselves. Men that are married are called to show their love for God through their wives as Father mentions. We need to tell our family that we love them daily and perform acts of kindness to them. We need to learn to love and pray for our enemies and forgive them. Lastly, be a man of generosity. We can do great things we we put other people before ourselves.

Happy Friday!

Earning a Womans Respect

21 01 2010

So in keeping with my last post I will add two more rules men should abide by in their relationships with women. They are the following:

-I will respect womanhood because my mother is woman, I won’t do anything that I would be ashamed of if my mother finds out.

-Manhood means strength of character as well as body. Lack of self-control is a sign of weakness.

The first rule hits my conscious hard because of my sincere respect that I have for my mom. Her and my dad have raised not only myself but my brothers as well with the right morals and virtues to be strong men today. If we have this mindset that respect should not waver in any woman relationship we have today, we would see a lot less broken relationships. Treat women with the same love and respect that your mom has shown you throughout your life.

This second rule I think hits a home run in terms of the importance of “Being a man”. There are times of course where our emotions get the best of ourselves but there is no reason why we shouldn’t be able to control ourselves. And I of course have been guilty of being weak too at times. We all are. If we can limit those times and have more self-control then we will see the differences in our relationships with women. 

I want to make a point that these rules are not just rules for your girlfriend. But these are for all your female relationships. I have heard a lot these days how girls want to meet more “gentlemen” and less punks. Well these rules along with the other virtues are your tools for scoring that  beautiful girl who respects how you act. 

And lastly here is a Quote from Mother Teresa that can help in all our relationships with friends:

“Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless.”                                                                         -Mother Teresa 


Relationship Rules for Men

13 01 2010

Well I want to talk about some important tips that I found on a bookmark that I received when I was a teenager. These are more than tips. These are are life rules for men in regards to relationships with women. Again, I want to emphasize the importance of men taking responsibility for actions in relationships. So here are two that I will start off with and more will come in later blogs.

– The parents of my girlfriend place their trust in me. I will not violate it.

– I will respect my girlfriend as I expect other men to respect my sister.

Even though I know these are basic norms that every man thinks they follow.  I see most of the time in my life that these norms often go in one ear and out the other in mens lives. The first norm above is very simple.  Men should not throw away the trust given to them by their girlfriends parents and mistreat their girlfriend in any way. The second norm  follows suit with the first in that you wouldn’t want any man to mistreat your sister so remember to respect your girlfriend with the expectations you have of other men.

Remember the choices we make define our character. It is often easy to make the “easy choice” but think of the consequences down the road that this choice may lead to. Mike Severy had a great blog about Choices. I think everyone should read it.

Lastly I added the quote above, under my title. It is from Braveheart, one of my favorite movies. I think best describes the purpose of this blog and how we as men should act in helping to make the world a better place.


9 01 2010

Respect, the song sung by Aretha Fanklin loves to be belted out by all. But when I think of respect, I think of the most common rule known by man, the Golden Rule. For those that don’t know the Golden Rule is “Treat others as you would want to be treated.” There are many variations to this rule, but they all have the same meaning in that you respect those around you with the same respect you wish to be shown.

I consider respect to be one of the most important parts of being a man in your daily life. If you do not show respect not only to yourself but in relationships how can your peers respect you. From a young age we learn from our parents what is right and what is wrong. And the simple Golden Rule our parents try to teach us at a very young age. I remember fighting with my younger brothers and my parents would bring up the golden rule readily.  It is just a simple rule that can do wonders for everyone if we all followed it.

Men must show respect to women in all every aspect. Too often have I seen women have their feelings hurt from something stupid done by one of my guy friends. Respect is the most simplest way to show love for your partner. Women shouldn’t settle for anything less than the utmost respect from a man in a relationship.  With respect comes trust and that should never be taken for granted.